The Equanimity Collective

It all starts with a deep breath.

Calm. Balanced. Happy.

Tips and tricks to stay even-tempered

Replace “What If” With “What Is”

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If I find myself in a situation that is stressing me out, I make sure I swap any “what if” thoughts with “what is.”

I need to credit Soar: The Breakthrough Treatment for Fear of Flying, which was instrumental in helping me get back on an airplane after an 8-year fear-induced hiatus, for this awesome tactic.

More on flying another time.

Executing the “what is” technique is simple. The goal is to surround yourself with facts and data and look at what is actually happening rather than trusting the stories that your brain is manufacturing.
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The Power of Slow

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When I transitioned my career from Manhattan to Long Island, the most remarkable difference was the pace at which people worked…and walked.

Those first few weeks I would catch myself flying down the hallways. For what? Absolutely nothing. It was a silly habit.

Same thing with the commute. I would find myself in a frenzy if I missed a red light or another driver cut me off. Even when the reality was I had plenty of time to spare. [Read more…] about The Power of Slow

My Mantra

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Confident. Fit. Focused.

That’s my mantra.

And I agree, it doesn’t roll off the tongue like “Om.”

But it’s mine. Part of me.

It also might actually belong to a bunch of karate students, too, because I’m pretty sure I lifted it from a storefront I once passed. [Read more…] about My Mantra

Cardio, Lots of Cardio

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When I would complain to my psychotherapist that I was having trouble finding the time to exercise, he would simply say, “20 minutes of cardio…with sweat.”

And thus my benchmark was set.

I strive to do cardio a minimum of 4x a week at 20 minutes a clip with the goal of breaking a sweat. I wear a heart rate monitor to ensure that I get up into the “cardio zone.” [Read more…] about Cardio, Lots of Cardio